Four things

Susan rang today, and (1) we are seeing the neonatologist on Thursday. We are also seeing (2) the social worker. I decided to do this, since if things go well, well need to hook in to some support services, so we might as well know who we are dealing with.

(3) I rang my friend Anna and had a long chat about shit that happens. I think this was a really useful conversation to have just now, I havent quite got my sense of humor back, but I can see it from here.

And (4), I decided to get positive, and I rang my pediatrician, and explained the situation to the lovely receptionist. Dr McVeagh rang me back this afternoon, and I am going to make an appointment to see her with this baby in mid December.

One more thing. After a very quiet morning, baby has been kicking up a storm all afternoon and evening 🙂

22 weeks, and a whinge

Yesterday we clocked over to 22 weeks.

On Thursday my doctor gave me three more pathology forms, for three more out patient anti natal visits, and said Id be going in to hospital after that, which puts the date around the 18th of October. We had asked to bring forward the meeting with the neonatologists by one week, just because I feel like I need time to digest the information before having to make any big decisions. Unfortunately, my dr told me that we wouldn’t be seeing he neonatologists for another 2 weeks, a week after we were initially told it would be, and two weeks after I had wanted it.

On Friday, I had a meltdown. Two things were bugging me. That my wishes were ignored completely about seeing the neonatologist early, and that my doctor didn’t seem to have the time to talk about it with me. And that made me cranky about something else. In the three weeks since I was told that one of my babies had died, nobody from the hospital had said anything to me about counseling, or even talking to someone about how I felt. Granted, I didn’t want it at the time, and I’m not sure I want it now, but if the same thing happened to one of my loved ones, I’d want to think that there was some service offered to them. The death of a baby at such a late gestation is a big thing to most mums, and I find it quite shocking that I was just sent home with no resources at all.

So I decided to call the perinatal support team, and just mention my concerns. I wasn’t about to kick up a stink, but if there is something I feel strongly about, its using my strength to make things easier for others.

I rang the pager number that was given to me by the team leader a few weeks ago, but she was on an RDO. The call was answered by a very lovely woman, but it wasn’t Susan, and I wasn’t in a fit state to explain my case from he beginning, so I tried to ring off and say that I would call back on Monday. But she wasn’t having that and was quite insistent that she could help me, so eventually I started to tell her my story.

And I lost it. I completely broke down on the phone to this stranger. And since I haven’t cried for a long, long time, I just couldn’t stop the tears from coming. Eventually I explained about the NICU visit, and she promised to arrange it for me, but I just had to get off the phone quickly, and I’ll deal with the other issue later.

Quite honestly, this situation is taking a toll. Each day seems harder than the one before, and every hospital visit seems like an unbearable force bearing down on me, its almost all I can do to put one foot in front of the other to get myself through the front door. Previously, I’ve been able to stumble through it all with a smile on my face, and to crack jokes, and see he lighter side (though how, I am not so sure).

And from now on, its only going to get harder. As this baby gets closer to viability, the stakes get higher every day. And now that we know we have a little boy, its hard not to think of names, to think of the future, to think about what a lovely big brother this baby is going to have. But still, that future is as tenuous as ever, and despite being 7 weeks into the journey, the end of the road seems further away than ever.

Mmmmm…. Flavoured booze made easy

Something about prolonged abstinence and enforced laziness makes the booze look all that much more attractive, so I am saving this link for when I can drink again. Honestly, I hope that day is still a long way away (currently 21w 3d), but somone else might enjoy it!

Quick spirit infusion.

I’m thinking Lemon Myrtle vodka…

Lowlife bastadry – I take it all back!

Edited to add a retraction and apology. Dad must have tidied up on his way home – chair is neatly tucked behind the outdoor setting on the front porch. Universe, we are friends again 🙂

On Wednesday, the gorgeous Steph came over with two of her beautiful children, and a hot pink banana lounge, so I could laze outside and enjoy some of the lovely spring sunshine.

Yesterday, when mum and dad were here, dad set it up for me in the yard, but I didnt get to try it out because the weather turned cold.

Now this morning is a beautiful day, and I was looking forward to christening the lounge while the cleaners worked inside the house, and catch up on some vit d that I have been missing for the last 6 weeks.

BUT SOME BASTARD HAS PINCHED MY BEAUTIFUL LOUNGE!