Miriam loaned me a book called “The Science of Parenting“, and since I had it for 2 months and didn’t get around to reading it, I decided to buy a copy and return hers.
I’ve only read the first few chapters so far, but I think this will be my default gift for all new parents. As well as an ABA subscription and Breastfeeding education classes of course!
It’s not only based on recent research, and referenced, it’s got a tip sheet at the end of each chapter for the really important points, just in case you are a sleep deprived new parent, and might not be firing on all cylinders.
So, my current “Inigo approved” parenting book list reads;
Nurture Shock – which deserves it’s own post, but that is for another day.
Of course, parenting is like driving, we are all alike in that we think we are doing it right, but everyone else is doing it wrong. That is why I am making such an effort to research this job. Apparently, 85% of us think that parenting is the most important job we will ever do, but less than 5% of us ever read a book or do a course to prepare us for the job.
So if Inigo grows up and complains that I was a terrible parent, at least I’ll be able to say that I tried. Really hard.
2 thoughts on “The Science of Parenting”
I think one of the most difficult aspects of parenting is the criticism, either real or perceived, that we receive from other parents. No two children are the same, and no two families are the same. And we really can’t pass judgement unless we’ve walked in someone else’s shoes.
Like you, I’ve put a huge amount of effort into “learning” how to be a better parent… mainly because I was so depressed and ill when they were babies that I lost all confidence in my natural abilities to parent.
I’ve done courses, I’ve spent regular time with a child and family psychiatrist, and I’ve read a mountain of books.
In the end, we all find what works best for our own little (or big) families. And I truly believe that no two families can parent in the exact same way… even if they’ve been given the exact same information.
In the end, I believe that most of us do the best that we can with the skills and circumstances that we have.
And, personally, I know that all of my research has made my parenting experience miles better than if I’d struggled through completely on my own. I’m certainly not a perfect parent (ROFLOL!) but I’m sure of the boundaries that I’m setting my kids and the consistency with which I issue consequences. And that, is the best that I can do. xoxox
And, of course, the criticism we heap on ourselves!
I’m absolutely not intending to have a go at others, merely to remind myself, that despite my shortcomings, I am trying really hard to be the best parent I can be. Actively, not just passively going along for the ride 🙂