Love is a matter of choice.
Love is a matter of conduct.
Love is alive when it remembers, dying when it forgets and dead when it ignores.
Love is alive when it has time, dying when it is hurried and dead when it cannot wait.
Love is alive when it is giving, dying when it is exchanging and dead when it is taking.
Love is alive when it is secure, dying when it starts doubting and dead when it stops trusting.
Love is alive when it acts it’s way in to feeling and dead when it feels it’s way in to action.
One of the most profound things that our minister told us, and that I had never considered before, is that love is not about my happiness. So many people believe that if they are not happy in a relationship it is time to get out and move on. But when you base a relationship on your happiness, you base the relationship on yourself.
Relationships take work and too often they go from exciting to exhausted to expired.
The goal of any successful relationship should never be based solely on happiness. The goal of a successful relationship should be based on growth. If you can grow together and find common ground, you will have happiness. But you’ll also have a whole lot of other things that ultimately, will contribute to making the relationship stronger and more beautiful.
Stolen from Amazing Trips. Scroll down a few posts, and check out “Favourite Thing Friday”.
Disco Knitter 
“Love is dead when it feels its way into action.”
At around the time of our 30th anniversary, a man who was considering ending his 15yr marriage asked me ‘the secret’. My answer: commitment – it’s not feelings but commitment that gets us through. Every day we choose to be married. Sometimes it would be easy to walk away but that’s true of any relationship! Love is, as the book title says, a decision.
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Yup. Love is something more than just happiness. I’ve been married 29 years and known him for 35 years!! Love is something strong that glues you together through thick and thin. When you’re losing your cool and almost yelling at him to get your point across and then realise you’re getting WAY too serious, just to start laughing at how ridiculous you both sound, leads to a healthier resolution. Love is the way someone else can make you feel when something has gone bad in your own life, grief, pain etc without saying anything, just an arm around you or hold your hand says 10,000 words stronger. If someone else empathises without adding one of their own gory stories, that feels more like love. There is love in the silent moments – listen – there is GOD.
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