Responding to Bullies

Kid has been getting hassled at school for loving bunnies and rainbows and shiny things. We sat him down and discussed options for dealing with bullies.

1. Change.

By accepting that you are different and trying to fit in, the bullies win, and you’re miserable.

2. Tell the bullies to fuck off.

Metaphorically, of course. I wouldn’t condone swearing at School as a good means to an end. But a decent fuck you/fuck off/go fuck yourself requires a healthy dose of self esteem. So we checked.

Me – Do you know who you are?

Kid – Yes

Me – And do you think you are a good person? Are you kind, and clever, and respectful, and funny, and cool?

Kid – Yes

Me – And do you like yourself?

Kid – Yes

And this morning, when dressing for school, he wore the shiniest, rainbowiest outfit he could find, then added a rainbow umbrella, and decried the lack of rainbow glasses to complete the look.

My work here is done. Fuck you bullies.

World Famous in New Zealand

It’s a thing – and for such a small country, this is a pretty big thing. Page 6 of the National paper, talking about a promise by the new government to fund gifted education.

The New Zealand Centre for Gifted Education was contacted for comment, and they were asked to provide a parent who would be willing to comment for a story.

Inigo was happy to be photographed, so I chatted to the journo on the phone for 10 minutes, then we met the photographer in our local park. The online article was published last night, but the photo of us is only in the paper.

How to ADHD Tedx Talk

Please, please, please watch this if you can. Even if you’re not a teacher, don’t have a loved one with diagnosed ADHD, or work with someone with it, you can still learn a lot about how an ADHD brain works.

And understanding makes such a difference. Next time you wonder “what is wrong with you”, about someone (or even yourself) consider that brain differences are a possibility. So many more people have ADHD than are diagnosed with it.

If you are smart, or female, or just inattentive (with no hyperactivity), or all three of these things, you’ll be much less likely to be diagnosed. But the impact on your life will still be profound.