Bonnie came with me to the hospital today, and Roshni was back from holidays. It was actually really lovely to touch base with her again – she said that she’d been thinking about me lately. She and I do have a lovely understanding.
1 in 200 miscarriages results in bleeding that goes beyond what is healthy. If this happens, and you don’t get to hospital, things get ugly. Which is why Roshni thinks I should opt for the D&C, and avoid the risk. From her perspective, it’s better to avoid that .5% risk than take the risk of having surgery.
From my perspective, the inherent risks of surgery (general anaesthetic, infection, sharp instruments near bits of me that have had quite a ride already…) far outweigh the benefits of well, waiting.
Don’t get me wrong, I HATE waiting. But having unnecessary surgery to avoid having to wait seems a bit extreme, even to me. Normally, miscarriages happen between 2-4 weeks after the baby stops growing. Which means that I am just inside the window now, and that if I wait another 2 weeks, statistically, I’m likely to miscarry naturally.
Worst case scenario, if I do bleed too much, I have good support, I can get myself to hospital, or call an ambulance, or call someone to help out. I am paranoid enough to be cautious, and I’ve already experienced a nasty infection, so I know about the warning signs there too.
All in all, I am comfortable with the decision to wait, apart from the requirement that I attend the hospital every week until I get the all clear.
That sucks.
And the worst bit? I’m still deathly tired, and still puking.
So rude.
Gorgeous lion cub!
Glad you got good support at the hospital today…
… but very sorry to hear you’re still stuck between a bloody big rock and a very hard place.
Also very not fair that you’re still tired & puking.
C’mon universe – give Lara a break already!
That weighing the risks of proposed surgery is a fast way to doing one’s head head in, IMO…
Hugs, S xx
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Spiffy picture of Inigo.
How you be??
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