Comments on: Cuddles! http://lara.nettle.org/blog/2007/12/03/cuddles Knit One, Hug One.... Sun, 05 Feb 2012 11:31:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Fe http://lara.nettle.org/blog/2007/12/03/cuddles#comment-13781 Fe Tue, 04 Dec 2007 04:22:28 +0000 http://lara.nettle.org/blog/2007/12/03/cuddles#comment-13781 Darling girl..... How wonderful that you two could cuddle him like that. As you know, seeing him and wanting to cuddle him myself, and thinking about how difficult it must be for you, was incredibly overwhelming for me. I cried most of Sunday afternoon about it. But enough about me! Big sticky-outy-tongue to the nasty nurse. I do feel for them though. To be in that environment day after day, and often with awful outcomes, must cause them to toughen up in order to survive. Just sad that she wasn't sensitive to you. I'm hoping that I can come and visit again on Thursday. Will call. In the meantime, HEAPS of love to all three of you. And the breastfeeding thing will be what it will be. I had awful AWFUL problems with Hamish. He had a tiny mouth and I had a huge areole (too much information??!) and it was a nightmare. I persisted, but would have forgiven myself if I had given up. Fergus on the other hand, was easy-peasy, and then I had to wean him at 8 weeks because of all the drugs they put me on. That was even more traumatic. You guys will be fine. Inigo will be fine. He's a fighter, I can tell. And he's an old soul. He'll be forgiving and fighting to survive and to get the best of everything that he can. Hamish and Fergus can't stop talking about him. They plan on being very VERY good and responsible "older brothers" to him! I think they saw themselves in his face. Love you. xxxxxxxx Darling girl….. How wonderful that you two could cuddle him like that. As you know, seeing him and wanting to cuddle him myself, and thinking about how difficult it must be for you, was incredibly overwhelming for me.
I cried most of Sunday afternoon about it.
But enough about me! Big sticky-outy-tongue to the nasty nurse. I do feel for them though. To be in that environment day after day, and often with awful outcomes, must cause them to toughen up in order to survive. Just sad that she wasn’t sensitive to you.
I’m hoping that I can come and visit again on Thursday. Will call. In the meantime, HEAPS of love to all three of you.
And the breastfeeding thing will be what it will be. I had awful AWFUL problems with Hamish. He had a tiny mouth and I had a huge areole (too much information??!) and it was a nightmare. I persisted, but would have forgiven myself if I had given up. Fergus on the other hand, was easy-peasy, and then I had to wean him at 8 weeks because of all the drugs they put me on. That was even more traumatic.
You guys will be fine. Inigo will be fine. He’s a fighter, I can tell. And he’s an old soul. He’ll be forgiving and fighting to survive and to get the best of everything that he can.
Hamish and Fergus can’t stop talking about him. They plan on being very VERY good and responsible “older brothers” to him! I think they saw themselves in his face.
Love you. xxxxxxxx

]]> By: theoreticgal http://lara.nettle.org/blog/2007/12/03/cuddles#comment-13778 theoreticgal Tue, 04 Dec 2007 00:19:12 +0000 http://lara.nettle.org/blog/2007/12/03/cuddles#comment-13778 Hope the night was better for both of you. A big raspberry to the nasty midwife. Most newborns get a little distressed in the first few days of feeding either milk is coming too fast , too slow or they haven't managed to breath and feed simultaneously. It takes a bit of patience even with healthy babies, as they are not used to being hungry and being outside the womb is just such a new experience for them. How is the expressing going, it can be frustrating as you wait for the milk to come in on top of the additional stress of a sick baby. It took me quite a few days to be able to express enough consistently for Darcy's feed when he was in Nicu. Luckily, he was on nasal oxygen so I could feed him when I was there but the monitors always went a bit flakey when feeding. The nurses would turn off the alarms, so it wouldn't frighten us. I was always grateful for the fab nicu nurses at RCH. Thanks for the updates. We are sending you all the good vibes we can muster. Hope the night was better for both of you.
A big raspberry to the nasty midwife.

Most newborns get a little distressed in the first few days of feeding either milk is coming too fast , too slow or they haven’t managed to breath and feed simultaneously.
It takes a bit of patience even with healthy babies, as they are not used to being hungry and being outside the womb is just such a new experience for them.

How is the expressing going, it can be frustrating as you wait for the milk to come in on top of the additional stress of a sick baby.
It took me quite a few days to be able to express enough consistently for Darcy’s feed when he was in Nicu. Luckily, he was on nasal oxygen so I could feed him when I was there but the monitors always went a bit flakey when feeding. The nurses would turn off the alarms, so it wouldn’t frighten us. I was always grateful for the fab nicu nurses at RCH.

Thanks for the updates. We are sending you all the good vibes we can muster.

]]> By: Gemma http://lara.nettle.org/blog/2007/12/03/cuddles#comment-13776 Gemma Mon, 03 Dec 2007 23:28:33 +0000 http://lara.nettle.org/blog/2007/12/03/cuddles#comment-13776 dearest Lara, breast feeding is natural, but so is walking. they are learned skills, give yourselves time. dearest Lara, breast feeding is natural, but so is walking. they are learned skills, give yourselves time.

]]> By: M-H http://lara.nettle.org/blog/2007/12/03/cuddles#comment-13773 M-H Mon, 03 Dec 2007 20:27:13 +0000 http://lara.nettle.org/blog/2007/12/03/cuddles#comment-13773 Thinking of you. Candy's right - it will happen. And you have to recover from surgery too. But it's hard to be patient, I know. ::hugs:: Thinking of you. Candy’s right – it will happen. And you have to recover from surgery too. But it’s hard to be patient, I know. ::hugs::

]]> By: Candy http://lara.nettle.org/blog/2007/12/03/cuddles#comment-13768 Candy Mon, 03 Dec 2007 12:09:44 +0000 http://lara.nettle.org/blog/2007/12/03/cuddles#comment-13768 Saw Mandy today after her visit with you. The breastfeeding will happen. While a very natural thing neither you or Inigo have done it before and you both have to learn. Deep breaths and sleep well. Will see you tomorrow. I will ring first. Love Candy Saw Mandy today after her visit with you. The breastfeeding will happen. While a very natural thing neither you or Inigo have done it before and you both have to learn. Deep breaths and sleep well. Will see you tomorrow. I will ring first. Love Candy

]]> By: mark http://lara.nettle.org/blog/2007/12/03/cuddles#comment-13766 mark Mon, 03 Dec 2007 11:52:22 +0000 http://lara.nettle.org/blog/2007/12/03/cuddles#comment-13766 Was that the midwife we were talking about earlier? Very sad to hear about that. I'm sure he'll be ok. @Adele: Yeah, how stupid can our society get? Was that the midwife we were talking about earlier? Very sad to hear about that. I’m sure he’ll be ok.

@Adele: Yeah, how stupid can our society get?

]]> By: Adele http://lara.nettle.org/blog/2007/12/03/cuddles#comment-13765 Adele Mon, 03 Dec 2007 11:42:18 +0000 http://lara.nettle.org/blog/2007/12/03/cuddles#comment-13765 "because he needs skin to skin contact, all the pics are a little pornographic." Isn't it ridiculous that a photo of parents cuddling their son (or creating him) should be offensive, yet one person killing another should be M-rated? “because he needs skin to skin contact, all the pics are a little pornographic.”

Isn’t it ridiculous that a photo of parents cuddling their son (or creating him) should be offensive, yet one person killing another should be M-rated?

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